Sex and overweight: disturbed intimacy
Being overweight is a debilitating pathology that is detrimental during job interviews, travel by plane, train, bus, but also during cultural, theatrical or restaurant evenings… As for sexual relations, it is clear that this is not no easier . What about more concretely?
A disturbed private life
There are six million obese people in France who do not always live well with their lack of vitality in bed. The man suffers from virility and the woman feels abandoned. Behavioral and cognitive disorders are added to other social, environmental, nutritional and relational constraints.
The couple relationship does not help the case: a lack of appetite can come with a loss of self-esteem , disorders of excitement and sexual desire or even avoidance of sexual intercourse. Singles, too, feel less desirable when being overweight makes their skin look slack. Women suffer from it and men experience a feeling of shame in front of a sexual attribute in obvious lack of erectile capacity. Undressing then becomes difficult.
Proven statistics
In 2010, a survey on the sexual behavior of the French revealed that overweight women had a third less chance of finding a sexual partner during the past year than the others. A vicious circle is established: few behaviors of seduction at home and little investment in body or clothing. For men, it’s no better: only one sexual partner over the past year. They hate not visualizing their sex which, hidden by their belly, jeopardizes their masculinity and therefore their performance.
In addition, abdominal overweight creates an additional risk of ending up with cardiovascular pathologies that are real causes of erectile dysfunction .
find soul mate
For overweight people going to meet the other is tricky. Dating sites promote connection. Of course, it is better to play fair. You have to learn to accept your obesity. The tools of seduction are not all oriented towards the physical: education, culture, alertness are just as much sought after. Women prefer a kind, courteous and elegant person with whom a good bond can be created. The proof is: for more than 65% of women the company of an obese man is not an obstacle to the couple and it is the same for less than 40% of men.
If both are obese?
Excess fatty tissue makes access to the genitals more difficult. The touch is penalized, the reports are moving towards caresses and even towards masturbation. Afterwards, it’s also just a story of imagination and letting go. You have to dare what the more ordinary couple would not do. Complicity becomes an indispensable ally. If the woman remains comfortable with her body and plays with it, the sexual act becomes a pleasure . It is even common to find that overweight women are more voluptuous, naughty. They know how to more eroticize their bodies and move their form. Which, let’s face it, can make a man in love with thrills. And then, why not use subdued lighting or other elements that stimulate the sense of smell or the visual.
Once again, we throw aside preconceptions and seek pleasure where it hides. There is so much to discover and innovate in this area that even obese people will not stop giving their alter ego sensations and waves of intense chills.
Stephen Paul is the lead author and founder of My Health Sponsor. Holder of a diploma in health and well-being coaching with more than 200 articles in the field of health, he makes it a point of honor to offer advice based on reliable information, based on scientific research, and verified by health professionals.